When they needed money, at least they called me.
42 pages · Instant download · Written by a mother, not a therapist
42-page printable survival workbook for parents, grandparents, and families of adult children with addiction. Not a book you have to finish. Open to the page that matches tonight.
A 42-page printable survival workbook for parents, grandparents, and families of adult children with addiction.
Not a book you have to finish. Open to the page that matches tonight.
Includes practical pages for the 2:00 AM phone call, money and enabling, safety, treatment, relapse, grief, estrangement, rebuilding your own life, and cut-out wallet cards.
You don’t have to read this from beginning to end.
Something happened tonight. They asked for money again. They want to come home. You haven’t heard from them. Start where you are.
For the night you don’t know what to do next.
Write before you send money.
Write before you answer.
Write before you unlock the door.
What do I actually know?
What am I assuming because I am scared?
What absolutely has to be dealt with tonight?
A 42-page printable survival workbook for parents, grandparents, and families of adult children with addiction.
Not a book you have to finish. Open to the page that matches tonight.
Includes practical pages for the 2:00 AM phone call, money and enabling, safety, treatment, relapse, grief, estrangement, rebuilding your own life, and cut-out wallet cards.
Does it feel like the same crisis keeps coming back?
Crisis → Fear → Rescue → Relief → Hope → Promise → Disappointment → Crisis
The question is not how to control the whole cycle.
It is: Where can I step out this time?
I knew I was enabling. I still did it.
This isn’t about judging what you did. It’s about seeing what happened after you said yes.
You can grieve someone who is still alive.
You can be happy with your life and still be heartbroken that your child isn’t part of it.
And if the phone finally rings, you do not have to decide the whole future in the first five minutes.
Take the decision with you.
Some nights you do not need another chapter. You need one sentence in your wallet before the phone rings.
Print them. Cut them out. Keep one in your wallet, purse, car, or beside your phone.
Why I made this
I’m not a therapist. I’m a mother who lived this.
For years I carried every crisis, every phone call, every dollar, every promise and every fear in my head. I gave money after I promised myself I wouldn’t. I said yes because sometimes saying no felt like losing my child altogether.
I made One Less Thing to Carry because sometimes you don’t need another person explaining addiction to you. You need somewhere to put down what happened, slow yourself down, and figure out what you are going to do next.
You do not have to stop loving your child to start living your own life again.
One Less Thing To Carry
42-page printable workbook + wallet cards
$17 · Instant PDF download
Print at home or take the PDF to a copy shop for printing or spiral binding.
A 42-page printable survival workbook for parents, grandparents, and families of adult children with addiction.
Not a book you have to finish. Open to the page that matches tonight.
Includes practical pages for the 2:00 AM phone call, money and enabling, safety, treatment, relapse, grief, estrangement, rebuilding your own life, and cut-out wallet cards.